Three Little Words for Better (Business) Relationships // ALD 008 — DT101 E79

Thank you for listening to this Ask Like a Designer episode of the Design Thinking 101 Podcast.

This episode is about the tremendous power in three little words and a superpower for people who want to think and solve like a designer: listening.

This episode is based on this article: ALD008 // Three Little Words for Better (Business) Relationships. Read the article and others like it on Fluid Hive’s Ask Like a Designer.

Photo of Dawan StanfordIn these short Ask Like a Designer episodes on the Design Thinking 101 podcast, you’ll find new ways to explore the show’s stories and ideas about design-driven innovation. I’ll share methods, templates, and ideas that have worked in my practice in teaching.

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Cheers ~ Dawan
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President, Fluid Hive

Show Highlights

[00:56] It is listening, not love, that is at the core of a strong relationship.
[01:16] The three little words: tell me more.
[01:47] Why “tell me more” is so powerful.
[01:56] “Tell me more” is better than “why.”
[02:36] The importance of good listening.
[02:50] There are many ways of using and phrasing “tell me more.”
[02:55] When someone stops talking.
[03:15] Parroting the other’s words.
[03:33] Parrot questions.
[03:51] Long silences can encourage someone to keep talking.
[04:14] Spotlighting the other’s silences.
[04:42] Noticing changes.
[05:07] Listening is different from interviewing, advising, or negotiating.
[05:25] When we listen, we learn.
[05:50] Designing an event means creating an environment for good listening.
[06:06] Listening is not passive
[06:12] Listening is fundamental to design.
[06:35] Free Ask Like a Designer tool to help you practice “tell me more” and in turn, become a better listener.

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